I read a blog somewhere. The writer was so irritated at the modern proverb, “It takes a lot of work for a good marriage.” Her claim was that if it takes a lot of work, then it isn’t love and it isn’t a good marriage. I couldn’t disagree more. Even in a happy relationship, it only gets better with more work.
Love is an action verb. If we love someone, we serve them. Otherwise, it is just warm fuzzies and the wind can blow those away. Sometimes it isn’t easy. Sometimes it might not even be fair, but we all come with our different baggage and weaknesses so our loving spouses have their own chance to serve us in ways that are difficult and unfair.
Oh, don’t take this in any way to mean that anyone should bear abuse.
But neither should we expect everything to fall out perfectly of its own accord without forgiveness and fostering kind thoughts towards our spouse.
Anyway, dear reader, I think I got one of the really good guys. I am so very, very happy that 30 years ago I decided to ‘babysit’ an old lady rather than go to the beach with friends (that’s how I met my special husband! He came to this old lady’s house to return her umbrella – she had visited his mom the day before and had forgotten it there).